Funerals can be both a solemn or celebratory occasion to pay the last respect for a life lived. Speeches, moments of silence, reflections, and farewells are often apart of a funeral ceremony. A quiet and controlled environment tends to compliment the elements that make up a funeral.
It is often a difficult decision whether or not young children should go to funerals. We discuss funeral etiquette and taking children to funerals. This article is provided by Sydney Coffins. Sydney Coffins is a memorial product and funeral provider in Australia, specialising in unique and personalised coffins, caskets and funerals.
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Attention from a funeral can easily be taken away by noises which are not familiar or appropriate. For this reason, most families choose to not take children under the age of 3-4 to funerals. This is subjective to whether the individual child can follow common funeral protocol and stay still and quiet for what is often a lengthy period of time. In addition to this, funerals are more often than not sad occasions. Most children have not developed the emotional understanding of what death is, therefore they may not display the required sensitivity during a time which requires it and towards those who need it.
Pre-Funeral Explanation To Children About Funerals
It is helpful to explain to them what a funeral is, what to expect, and funeral etiquette for children required to attend a funeral. A funeral can be a distressing occasion for children so an adult should be present to support them emotionally. If the funeral is open casket you may want consider whether you want them to view a deceased person. The way people react to an open casket is subjective and not the same for us all. Let children know that people will be grieving, and crying and this is normal.
If l child will play a role in the funeral a role play to practice their part is very useful. Have a fill-in person to deliver their role should not be able to fulfill their role on the day.
Post-Funeral Explanation To Children About Funerals
Attending a funeral can be emotionally difficult bot during the ceremony but also once the funeral has concluded. Children may have questions and emotions which they would like to share with a mature person. It is important to ask children about their perception, understanding, and well-being after a funeral.