We discuss the notion of what a funeral is and the ability to choose the best funeral possible. This article is provided by Sydney Coffins. Sydney Coffins is a memorial product and funeral provider in Australia, specialising in unique and personalised coffins, and caskets.
Most people will not truthfully answer this question until they are placed in the position to arrange their own funeral or that for a loved one.
The two different answers to this question on the internet are of 2 extremes. 1. Over the top exuberant funerals. 2. Under bare minimum funerals
These results depict the extreme discomfort and challenge which the topic death presents to people. Few topics in life can stir such uneasiness and the above 2 most common answers on the internet are exactly what DOES NOT happen according to funeral industry data.
There are people in that do not want any celebration or memorial in any form but unfortunately, it is often due to lack of finances than personal intent.
Are funerals for the living or the dead?
Funerals are a profound event that is for the living. Why for the living may you ask? Well, a funeral is similar to when a baby is born. The baby is there but most of us would agree that the baby has absolutely no understanding of the powerful event occurring to the people around it.
Similarly to that of the deceased. The deceased person may or may not be there at the funeral service. And once again it is a powerful event in life for those present regardless of the fact the deceased is not alive to understand it.
How can l include my entire life story into the funeral?
A funeral is a drop in the ocean to the life of a person. Death is the moment where the circle of our life joins. The circle is full of many memories even if it is not a long-lived life. Try to remember that and not be anxious about all that cannot be said. Those who attend Already have an abundance of memories. During a funeral, people envision many memories.
If everyone at a funeral had a brain scan of what they are thinking it would be a mass of collages of beautiful moments of a life once lived. A funeral is a closing memory. So, do not begin to think you can display, say or show your whole life and yourself in the funeral service. It is just not possible.
The 3 elements which make up a funeral
Now the funeral takes form in three elements. Together they create the overall content and feel of the funeral.
1. Memorial Products
Funeral memorial products include coffins, caskets, urns, headstones, flowers and even invitations. These products do contribute to the overall appearance of a funeral as people often congregate around them or even touch them.
Just like any other product sold in society. Memorial products also have a certain style and design which is created to appeal to different people. For this reason, it is important to select a memorial item which suits the deceased or the family members.
2. The Funeral Service
Funeral services can be held in religious locations, a chapel, a private hall, burial plot side, even within a private home. The choice of the funeral service location depends on finance, religion, an overall intention of the service.
There may also be a presenter for the funeral service. It is usually a religious representative or a civil celebrant. A family member or close friend can also present the funeral however it is advised to use a professional.
3. The Tone
The tone is achieved through the selection of products, the presenter and most importantly the content of the service. Speeches, The eulogy, readings, visuals such as videos, photographs, and the music played all have a significant role in contributing to the overall tone of a funeral service. Choose the above according to the tone you hope to achieve.
The funeral industry often separates them into 2 tones; 1. A somber funeral service or 2. A celebratory funeral service. However, just like a baptism or a wedding, which can be done in a million ways so can a funeral. You can mix or match almost anything in a funeral. It can be both celebratory and traditional there is nothing that makes it impossible for it to be both if that is what you hope for.
Even if there are restrictions with resources, or finance there are still ways to achieve a beautiful funeral. Call Sydney Coffins to discuss your options.